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How can you NOT make sure the woman came?
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How can you NOT make sure the woman came? I’ve seen and heard plenty of times that women are often left unfulfilled when they have sex. I just don’t get it – unless a guy has a problem with premature ejaculation, as a man isn’t it your job to make her come? Maybe it goes back to my lack of self-esteem. As a guy who didn’t get laid a lot when I was younger, when I DID get laid I always wanted to make sure she had a good time to increase my chances of being asked back. ASIDE - it’s not that I was ugly or a creep, I just had no confidence. I often found out much later about girls I could have scored with if I just had the nerve to ask - END ASIDE I always figured if she got off, I had a better chance of getting laid again. I guess it worked too, because although there were several one-night stand in “my number”, only once did I not get asked back when I wanted to go another round. Even my first girlfriend (we dated three whole weeks lol) said the first time we tried to have sex that not to take it personal if she didn’t “get off” because she didn’t usually come when she had sex (and since she was promiscuous she’d had plenty). I made sure I went down on her and yes, she definitely got off. When I was done, she giggled and said “Wow, I didn’t know you were into that.” Even during 23 years of marriage to my now future-ex-wife, I always made sure she came at least once – either with my mouth or hand (she said I have magic fingers) before I came. I figured she only came about 80% of the time while fucking so I used all available methods. How did I know she wasn’t faking it? Her clit gets much larger when she’s about to come, she doesn’t actually squirt but get much wetter as she comes. I may not have “brought it” often enough as we got older (not all my fault) but when I did, I really brought it. If she didn’t orgasm during intercourse I would always finish her off another way. Was it always easy? No, some women just didn’t seem that into sex, it was just something they did to show they were interested in a guy, and especially when I was younger there were times when it was tough to hold back from coming myself. It wasn’t unusual for me to think of other things try to distract myself in the middle of a session if I was getting close and I felt I hadn’t lasted long enough – Don Mattingly stroking a double to right center field was a particular favorite. Luckily, in my 20’s I usually stayed hard after my first orgasm and would often go 4 times between night and morning. Ah, the glories of youth. So, I guess there’s no point to this rambling other than to say it’s weird to me when women say they don’t get off during sex, and that they guy they’re having sex with doesn’t make sure they do - by any means necessary. |
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How many other guys feel this way? How many women like this approach?
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Well of course I always appreciate a man that will take the time, and actually care if I have an orgasm or not. Depending on what website or article you look at....a majority of women do not reach orgasm by intercourse alone. Most need oral stimulation, or the use of fingers or toys, or some combination of those. I am one of those women. I need the latter to achieve orgasm. I don't believe I have ever cum from intercourse alone I have not had many lovers, but the few that I have had, have been patient and waited for me to orgasm before they would. God bless them......lol  Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL 
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nice post
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I can tell you that I have several "gushes" in a good session .... none of which are orgasms. A combination of menopause and medication keeps me from achieving the Big O most of the time. I have different criteria now to determine satisfaction. Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!
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No disrespect intended to any women who find it difficult to orgasm from intercourse or foreplay. I'd have no problems bringing out some toys though lol. My initial intention was about how I can't comprehend that pound away for a minute or two, finish and just assume the woman had a good time too, and if not, so well . . .
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